People don't care if you've sincerely apologized or not. They only care about their feelings and perceptions. If you apologize, it will only be accepted if the person decides you're worth it. Most times you aren't worth their consideration because they believe they'll lose something of themselves by forgiving. Gods forbid we forgive. End of story.
I said sorry. I grovelled. I chased. It didn't work. Oh well. I'm learning to just not care anymore.
People aren't worth the emotional investment. Seriously.
In realtionships you are supposed to be able to work issues out. Talk, argue, and make ammends. How can you do that when every single time you try to address an issue you're accused of creating drama?! It makes no sense. We go literally months without an issue and then, when there is one, i say something about it only to be told i am just trying to create drama. Wtf people?!
I take the time to listen to others' issues with me, make ammends, and, hopefully, fix whatever flaw in my character that created the issue in the first place... Then, as soon as i believe i can do the same, BAM, i'm only creating drama... It gets to where you start to think those people aren't worth the time and effort you took to maintain any relationship.
Then, i wonder if i am the waste of time. If i can't find friends who are willing to invest in me the way i invest in them, maybe it's me. Maybe there is something fundamentally wrong with me. What else could it be?
Why do i bother? Why do i waste my time? With anything. Oy.
I have a best friend. Who doesn't really listen and gets besides himself when i am upset or in a bad mood. All he needs is for "it" to just go away. Everything is great until i need someone to talk to or vent with. How dare i expect anyone to take time away from their own interests to be my friend...? I know that's not what a "real" best friend is supposed to be like, but it's what i have to work with.
Everyone in my life is happy with me as long as i am contented with life. So, i lie. A lot. "Yes, i'm good." "Hehe. Yea." "I'm so glad to hear that!" And so on and so on... As soon as i say i'm not happy, not everything is okay, i don't feel good, etc., i'm persona non grata. Numero uno.
Maybe it's me. But i can't see what in me "it" is...
I'm generally happy and or contented a majority of the time. I rarely can't work through my problems on my own so i don't often say that i'm not doing so good.
I'm strong. In who i am. In what i believe. In how i view the world around me.
I'm damn honest. Brutally so at times. I already know people don't appreciate that like they say they do. It's one of the phallacies people put in place to protect themselves and make them appear a better person. They like the truth. As long as it aligns with their own perception of it.
I love easily. Could be that means i also love cheaply. Stands to reason. Just wish i knew how to change that...
My words are worn out. Time to end this for now.
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